Sunday, January 6, 2013

I feel

Today, I take time out to grieve for the girl they call "Nirbhaya". We have been shifting and shuttling around houses so I haven't had the time to really pay my condolences to Her Soul, for losing Her body much before Her time. In my busy life I haven't been able to be a part of it all. But there are times at the traffic signal when the light is red and I stop, something triggers and tears roll down. I remember the things that I read in the papers and it shakes me. I have no words to express what I feel about the incident. If I think about Her, the pain and suffering. Hours of hell. How could they? Why did they? I can't  understand the reason behind it all, if there was any reason. It sends a shiver down my spine every time I think about it. The Accused behind bars but for how long. Do they feel triumphant about what they did? That they are alive? Because they are in the headlines? Grinning because there might be some people who even think that women are the ones to blame??
I wonder what would happen if a man was castrated just because he was on the street at night. You would say why compare a rape to cutting off a man's genitals. But you can compare. A rape survivor would be physically and mentally scarred like a man without his genitals. If you just forcefully have sex with a man, its not as severe as a woman who has been forced upon. He wouldn't lose anything.
I don't know, there are lots of things is my head. What is the solution? Can there be a solution? A woman is raped/physically assaulted every day. An innocent girl/woman loses her self esteem, her dignity, her soul. every day. How do you stop this? I have no answer.
I just feel pain.



  1. A man being raped is as bad... I have male friends who have been raped. Men who were raped for being gay. :-/
    In India... in USA...

    There is so much violence against women in the world... yet it manifested itself so powerful and so stirring in India. I do hope we can make changes ... for all women globally.

  2. But who rapes a man yet another man. :-/